Getting Off

Getting Off

One Woman's Journey Through Sex and Porn Addiction

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Baker & Taylor
An unflinching account of the author's journey through sex and pornography addiction describes the childhood factors that contributed to her sexual fixations and her international travels in search of a loving relationship and healing, recounting the difficult process that led to her marriage and newfound sense of self-acceptance.

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The author recounts the childhood factors that contributed to her sexual fixations, discusses her international travels in search of a loving relationship and healing, and explains the difficult process that led to her marriage and self-acceptance.

Simon and Schuster
A courageous account of one woman’s unflinching and ultimately hopeful journey through sex and porn addiction.

A fixation on porn and orgasm, strings of failed relationships and serial hook-ups with strangers, inevitable blackouts to blunt the shame – these are not things we often hear women share publicly, and not with the candor, eloquence and introspection Erica Garza brings to Getting Off.

What sets this courageous and riveting account apart from your typical misery memoir is the absence of any precipitating trauma beyond the garden variety of hurt we’ve all had to endure in simply becoming a person ― reckoning with family, learning to be social, integrating what it means to be sexual. Whatever tenor of violence or abuse Erica’s life took on through her behavior was of her own making, fueled by fear, guilt, self-loathing, self-pity, loneliness, and the hopelessness those feelings brought on as she runs from one side of the world to the other in an effort to break her habits —from East Los Angeles to Hawaii and Southeast Asia, through the brothels of Bangkok and the yoga studios of Bali to disappointing stabs at therapy and twelve-steps back home.

In these remarkable pages, Garza draws an evocative, studied portrait of the anxiety that fuels her obsessions, as well as the exhilaration and hope she begins to feel when she suspects she might be free of them. And yet there is no false or prepackaged sense of redemption here. Even her relationship with the man she will ultimately marry seems credibly, painfully rocky as it finds its legs with several false starts. Erica’s increasing sense of self-acceptance and peace by journey’s end feels utterly earned, and absent of recovery platitudes.

In exploring the cultural taboos surrounding sex and porn from a female perspective, Garza offers a brave and necessary voice to our evolving conversations about addiction and the impact that Internet culture has had on us all.

Publisher: New York :, Simon & Schuster,, 2018
Edition: First Simon & Schuster hardcover edition
Copyright Date: ©2018
ISBN: 9781501163371
Branch Call Number: 616.8583 GAR
Characteristics: 210 pages ;,23 cm


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Jun 21, 2018

I really enjoyed this memoir by Erica Garza, but without significant trauma informing your sloppy decisions as an adult, you are on the hook. She complains that her main source of trauma was boredom. Boredom. I repeat: boredom. I'd venture to say that another source of dysfunction was her drunkard parents who let her have drunken-blackout house parties while in high school. How do you get blackout drunk and engage in group sex at your parents house while they're home and it's okay? My mind cannot wrap around the concept of parents who liberate their children to this degree so early in life.

The first half of the book felt like a meaningful examination of promiscuity and pornography and the intersection between the two. By the second half, I knew I was just reading the diary of a self-indulgent bimbo. Sorrynotsorry, but if Boredom-With-a-Capital-B is what drives you to engage in depravity at the risk of your own health, safety and general well-being, you are a bimbo. A bimbo that wrote a book. A good book though! Recommended! :)

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