You're the Only One I Can Tell

You're the Only One I Can Tell

Inside the Language of Women's Friendships

Book - 2017
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Random House, Inc.
This warm, wise exploration of female friendship from the #1 bestselling author of You Just Don’t Understand will help women lean into these powerful relationships.

Best friend, old friend, good friend, bff, college roommate, neighbor, workplace confidante: Women’s friendships are a lifeline in times of trouble and a support system for daily life. A friend can be like a sister, daughter, mother, mentor, therapist, or confessor—or she can be all of these at once. She’s seen you at your worst and celebrates you at your best. Figuring out what it means to be friends is, in the end, no less than figuring out how we connect to other people.

In this illuminating and validating new book, #1 New York Times bestselling author Deborah Tannen deconstructs the ways women friends talk and how those ways can bring friends closer or pull them apart. From casual chatting to intimate confiding, from talking about problems to telling what you had for dinner, Tannen uncovers the patterns of communication and miscommunication that affect friendships at different points in our lives. She shows how even the best of friends—with the best intentions—can say the wrong thing, and how words can repair the damage done by words. Through Tannen’s signature insight, humor, and ability to present pitch-perfect real-life dialogue, readers will see themselves and their friendships on every page. The book explains

• the power of women friends who show empathy, give advice—or just listen
• how women use talk to connect to friends—and to subtly compete
• how “Fear of Being Left Out” and “Fear of Getting Kicked Out” can haunt women’s friendships
• how social media is reshaping communication and relationships

Drawing on interviews with eighty women of diverse backgrounds, ranging in age from nine to ninety-seven, You’re the Only One I Can Tell gets to the heart of women’s friendships—how they work or fail, how they help or hurt, and how we can make them better.

Praise for You’re the Only One I Can Tell

“Men will enjoy and profit from this book as much as women will. . . . The moral of these stories [is that] the need for friendship is forever, no matter what forms it takes.”The Wall Street Journal

“A book about friendship that is also interested in the miscommunication that can so complicate it . . . The language, in this book about language, is saturated with concepts that apply equally well to romance in its more traditional forms. The language, too, celebrates friendship in its frustrations and its rewards and, above all, its wonderful complexity. It is promoting friendship from a supporting character into a starring role. . . . The loves that the linguist explores in her romantically named book are not merely ones that comfort and sustain women until, one day, the real thing comes along. They are the real thing.”The Atlantic

“At a time when the messages we give and get have so many more ways to be misconstrued and potentially damaging, a book that takes apart our language becomes almost vital to our survival as friends.”The Washington Post

“With knowledge and wisdom, the author helps readers navigate the subtle workings of language in interactions among women.”Library Journal

“[Tannen’s]extensive research and writing, full of thought-provoking questions along with facts, are sure to hook readers enticed by her rich topic.”Booklist

Baker & Taylor
The critically acclaimed linguistics professor and author of You Just Don't Understand decodes the conversational styles of female friends to explain how language contributes to the crucial bonds between women as expressed through casual chats, private confidences and social media exchanges.

Baker
& Taylor

A professor of linguistics at Georgetown University decodes the conversational styles of female friends and explains how language contributes to this unique, cherished, and crucial connection.

Publisher: New York : Ballantine Books, c2017
ISBN: 9781101885802
1101885807
Branch Call Number: 158.25082 TAN
Characteristics: xviii, 276 p. ;,25 cm.
Alternative Title: You are the only one I can tell

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