When Parents Hurt
Compassionate Strategies When You and your Grown Child Don't Get AlongBook - 2007
A comforting reference for parents who have lost harmonious relationships with their adolescent or adult children shares a range of case examples and healing exercises designed to help identify the sources of parent-child estrangement while addressing such issues as guilt, self-esteem, and self-acceptance.
This unique book supports parents who are struggling with the heartache of having a teenager or an adult child who is troubled, angry, or distant. Such rifts can cause unspeakable sorrow that parents too often must bear alone. Psychologist and parent Joshua Coleman, Ph.D., offers insight, empathy, and perspective to those who have lost the opportunity to be the parent they desperately wanted to be and who are mourning the loss of a harmonious relationship with their child. Through case examples and healing exercises, Dr. Coleman helps parents:
- Reduce anger, guilt, and shame
- Learn how temperament, the teen years, their own or a partner's mistakes, and divorce can strain the parent-child bond
- Come to terms with their own and their child's imperfections
- Maintain self-esteem through difficult times
- Develop strategies for rebuilding the relationship or move toward acceptance of what can't be changed
- Understand how society's high expectations of parents contribute to the risk of parental wounds
By helping parents recognize what they can do, and let go of what they cannot, Dr. Coleman helps families develop more positive ways of healing themselves and relating to each other.
Coleman, a psychologist who specializes in parenting, couples, families, and relationships, details how to deal with a strained relationship with a teenage or grown child. The book is for parents, but is not a parenting book. Instead, it covers ways to understand how the relationship devolved, guidance for parents who feel guilty about past behavior, the historical and economic context, and working through feelings of shame. He also discusses problems that occur with a child who has a different temperament, managing emotions provoked by teenagers, dealing with divorce, feelings that occur with children who can't get their lives going, relationships that have been cut off, and understanding childhood pasts and how it affects parenting. Exercises are included. Annotation ©2007 Book News, Inc., Portland, OR (booknews.com)
A reference for parents and estranged adolescent or adult children shares a range of healing exercises designed to help identify the sources of parent-child conflict while addressing such issues as guilt, self-esteem, and self-acceptance.